When you talk, do people listen? When you walk into a room, do people turn to look at you? When you stand, do you exude confidence and power? All of these are aspects of how the way you carry yourself contributes directly to how much you stand out as a real man. There are a lot of actions you do both consciously and subconsciously that come into play when a man carries himself a certain way. The way you carry yourself very much determines how others see you.
The way you carry yourself speaks to your presence. This includes what you look like, how you dress, how you stand, and how others perceive you as a person. Ideally, all of these things come to you naturally and subconsciously, but that takes a lot of practice and is more of an eventual result over a long process rather than an immediate change that takes place overnight.
The Importance of First Impressions:
Although we all know we cannot “judge a book by its cover,” it is still a social norm to judge people by our first impression. One of the major struggles that that status quo has presented is the assumption that the way you look defines your character. Alas, it is only the first thing one may notice, and it is quite natural to make some interpretation based on what you wear, how you style your hair, and so on.
This mentality has been so deeply rooted in a society that one often catches himself saying, “will I look good with this haircut?” every time they flip through a magazine or “do my clothes fit this special occasion?”. At the same time, they rummage through their closet and even “what if people don’t like my new bag?” while shopping for themselves. The greatest struggle for how one looks has become finding a way to please other people and leave a good first impression.
Many people are struggling with dressing up and caring for their appearance, but this is not the only thing you need to have to create a good first impression. People always tend to notice actions and habits - all these things collectively create an impression.
The question that then arises is how exactly one can leave a good first impression? Appearance is subjective and depends on the audience, but some features are necessary to the point that they may be considered rules.
Things as generic as the following are all noticed, directly or indirectly, by other people
- Be on time
- Display confidence
- Listen actively
- Make eye contact
Below are habits that people appreciate and thus is worth struggling for
Tips on How to Carry Yourself:
The way you carry yourself, the confidence you exude directly fuels your presence. This includes the way you dress, what you look like, how you stand, and how the people around you perceive you as a person. Tips to achieve these traits are discussed below.
While it would be ideal that these things be natural and done subconsciously, it is important to remember how different an individual is. However, this goal isn’t impossible. With the right amount of practice, the results are long term and natural rather than an overnight change that may be temporary. Self-improvement is always possible; here are some tips to help you on your journey to achieve it.
Your clothes matter
The first impression you make on the people around you come from the way you dress. Hence, you must dress properly to make a strong and positive first impression. The key to looking good is finding the right fit for your body. Baggy and uneven clothing leads to a non-serious outlook provoking indifference in others.
Invest in a good watch, good bracelet that fits you well. Watch & bracelet are like a piece of art, tying your entire look together perfectly.
Accessorize to a minimum and invest in a good pair of shoes. This makes a statement as soon as you enter the room, leaving behind an impression to be remembered.
A better appearance is the first and easiest step to self-improvement.
1. Identify your strengths
2. Work on your weaknesses
A real man knows what his weaknesses are and works on them to be better.
There’s a lot more than you think at play when you carry yourself like a real man. You’ll be able to convey ideas and signals with just the simplest of gestures, and people will pay attention to you without much effort from your end. This leaves an extremely impressionable effect on people and puts you in a powerful position whether it be as a leader, a speaker, a boyfriend or husband, or even as just a friend. Carrying yourself like a real man and making your presence known can really make a strong impact wherever you are and whatever you do.
Your body language allows others around you to notice you, pay attention to you, and to see exactly what you want them to see. This happens mostly with your gestures and the tone of your voice. A lot of what makes up your body language and gestures are influenced by the way you stand, your posture, how you walk, and the interactions you have with others, however big or small.
These things aren’t just about what you do when others can see you, either. How you carry yourself when you’re alone shows you yourself what kind of man you are. If you want to change the way you carry yourself, you have to become a master of your physical gesticulation and practice until it becomes so natural that you don’t have to think twice about your body language.