What exactly does it mean to be charismatic? Charisma isn’t just about attracting the opposite sex or appearing confident. Whether or not we have charisma affects the manner in which we’re perceived in our entirety. This includes job interviews, business connections, friends, relationships, and more. You might have fantastic qualities: you might be handsome, well-dressed, charming, and funny. Those characteristics don’t matter if you can’t present them properly.
If your personality is a five-star meal, charisma is the silver platter it’s served on, the candles on the table, and the smell of fresh flowers. So when it comes down to it, it’s all about your presentation. How you choose to flaunt what you’ve got can vastly affect others’ first impression of you. Charisma is an aura, an invisible, silent force that draws people to you like a magnet. Here at Azuro Republic, we not only teach you the fundamental principles of being charismatic, but also how to harness it properly.
What does a Charismatic Man Look Like?
Have you ever been in the presence of somebody who seems to illuminate a room as soon as they step into it? Do you know somebody who everybody seems to love and gravitate to, but you don’t know why? These things are all thanks to charisma. When a man has a heaping dose of charisma, he’s like a magnet of positive vibes for everyone around him. He holds people’s’ attention, he always has someone to talk to, and he has an uncanny ability to make people smile with even the smallest of gestures.
Now you might be thinking that you couldn’t possibly be that person. Perhaps this all seems just a little bit too overwhelming or too far away a goal. Believe it or not, becoming a more charismatic man is a totally attainable goal. Being charismatic doesn’t have any prerequisites. It doesn’t matter how good-looking you are, how well you dress, or how much money you have. It’s a quality that each and every single person can have once they put their mind to it.
If you’ve ever had trouble attracting women, landing jobs, making friends, or just socializing in general, having more charisma is something that can definitely help you with those problems. Follow the points below for a more detailed explanation on charisma and how to use it in the right way.
1. Being Genuine
When learning how to become a more well-rounded, likable, and attractive man, many fall into the trap of thinking that their changes require a complete personality disguise. This could not be further from the truth. People need to like you for who you actually are, and this means owning your quirks and your interests. If you’re simply hiding who you really are, you’re just being counterproductive to what you’re trying to achieve which is to draw people to you as a person, not an illusion of how you want to be perceived. The first step to being charismatic is being proud of who you are learning how to express yourself in a more confident, secure, and suave manner.
Something I see all too often is putting on the “nice guy” act in an attempt to appease and be friends with everybody. This just comes off as fake and only serves to repel people from you, the exact opposite of what you want to achieve. Now I’m sure that there are those of you out there where this is just a natural part of your personality. In that case, that’s fine as long as you are being truly genuine to yourself. However, it’s equally important to be honest with both yourself and others. Speak your mind and let it be known what you’re thinking and how you’re feeling.
Your uniqueness is what differentiates you from the rest of the crowd and helps you stand out so don’t shy away from it! Accept that you can’t please everybody. That’s just a given as human nature dictates that people will always have differing views and opinions. So stop trying to be a pleaser and embrace yourself for who you are.
2. Showing Emotion
This goes hand in hand with the previous point about being genuine. In fact, charisma can often be associated with a high degree of emotional intelligence. A lot of people think that being charismatic requires you to be ridiculously “cool”. As a result, they end up closing themselves off to the world and the people around them. Sometimes they even make a conscious effort to hide their emotions instead of being honest with them. Contrary to this way of thinking, hiding your emotions is definitely not the way to be charismatic.
There’s a big difference between cold and closed up and being charismatic. Those who are justifiably emotional are easier to interact with, more interesting, and more dynamic. As long as you are showing emotion spontaneously while maintaining a good balance, people will find it much more enjoyable to interact with you.
So how exactly do you show just the right amount of emotion? Do it in the inflection in your voice. If some topic of conversation excites you, allow yourself to feel and sound excited. Use facial expressions and body language where appropriate. The emotions that you exhibit should be of the kind that people feel compelled to mimic. A charismatic man is a role model and a leader who people look up to and strive to be more like.
Have you ever experienced the feeling when somebody who is really passionate about something gets to talk about it? And although you’ve never really been interested in that particular topic, hearing the passion in their voice gets you interested and excited? This is an example of the influential nature of charisma.
Charisma includes having strong social skills and an understanding of how people think and what they like. When you’re in social settings, you need to know how to control the flow of conversations while remaining in a comfortable and relaxed state. When it comes to setting yourself apart from the crowd, the single most important thing is individuality. There will come a time where you’re around other highly charismatic people or you might not even be the most charismatic person in the room. In this case, the proper course of action would not be to compete with these people, but rather to get along with them without losing your sense of self. Boys will give in to their competitive tendencies and try too hard to be the center of attention whereas real men are able to be respectful even it means sharing the spotlight.
It’s completely fine to take inspiration from other charismatic people, but it is essential to maintain your own unique sense of individuality.
If you’re just like everybody else and completely generic, what motivation do people have to talk to you? Especially if you’re not particularly attractive, charming, or in this case charismatic, you have nothing that makes you special in comparison to other people. You need to stand out in a way that can not only be seen but felt.
A Real Man Has Charisma
Charisma isn’t something that’s easy to explain, and it’s certainly not easy to teach. Charisma is a feeling. Truly understanding it is like trying to envision a color that someone is describing to you. The only way to really envision it is to get out there and see it for yourself. Pay attention to people that you know are charismatic and how they work a room. How do they talk to people? Where do they go? What do they talk about? Go talk to them yourself. How do they make you feel? Understanding exactly what charisma is by observing it for yourself is a major step to becoming a master of charisma yourself.
However, if you’re ready to start working on your charisma right away, take this token of advice: be somebody who focuses on the positive experiences and emotions of others and be genuine about it. Don’t get caught up in making yourself look good or making things about you. Be somebody who is there to being genuinely interested in others and what they have to say. Get in the moment and out of your head. Don’t worry about how your hair looks, or if your outfit is perfect, or if you’re saying the right things. If you mess up with one person, keep trying. Tomorrow is always a new day. There’s nothing standing between you and being charismatic.
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